There’s this persistent myth that working from home means you can work whenever you want. You can tune into your natural rhythm, discover your most productive self, and create the routine that suits yourself. Unfortunately, this myth does not take into account that my kids are up at 7:30 AM. At the very latest.
Before I had kids, I was sure that I would homeschool. I pictured those bright intelligent eyes taking in all the wisdom I had to share, before both of my lovely children would enjoy their educational projects while I worked. I imagined us all around the living room table, each engrossed in various tasks, being productive and… organized? That was before I had kids.
Now I open a bottle of white wine to celebrate “Back to School”.
Remote work and the option to homeschool
Some of my greatest heroes work remotely while also homeschooling their kids. Being a single mom is not an excuse (Naomi from Ittybiz raises her kid on her own). Having two kids isn’t an excuse either (Lea from Location Independent has two kids). Obviously, I am simply not good enough. Not patient enough. Not organized enough. Not resilient enough. Not patient enough.
Or maybe I am too selfish?
Definitely, I am a bad mother, because I prefer to send my kids to preschool instead of entertaining them at home myself. I know that school does not prepare them for their own future. But I need those 6-7 hours.
An option is an option, not an obligation
I probably could make it work. I could homeschool, if I really wanted. But the truth is, I am not interested. My introverted self relishes those hours of quietness that I can dedicate to my work. I try my best to be wholly present once they come back from school in the afternoon, using my phone only to change the music. Mostly. I take them to the park, I organize weekend getaways to the mountains, I am 100% mom on Saturdays and Sundays – and I enjoy my freedom, Mondays to Fridays from 9-4. The freedom to work, that is.
For me, working from home means getting up at 5:30 to walk the dog and get an hour of work done before the kids wake up, so I can have the afternoon off once they get home.
For me, working from home means to design a work day that works for us – even if that looks a bit boring on Instagram. I had to learn to let go of my own expectations. And that’s OK (most of the time).
Just because you can, doesn’t mean you have to.
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